Self-confidence killer: Beware!!!
Self-confidence is a sure feeling that you can do something so well. This is one of virtues that qualify a man for great achievements in life when viewed from the positive perspective. Self-confidence does make you see possibilities in everything. It gives you a solid belief in yourself and in your ability. There is nothing that scary because you have absolute trust in yourself. This quality is highly essential for the achievement of greatness in life.
Everyone is born with unique qualities and talents that could bring a transformation to the entire human race if explored. The first step to take is to identify your peculiar gifts. Discover your passion and your drive. This stems from personal realization and discovery. Man is a complex creature and specially configured to solve a particular problem on earth. The realization of this will help you strive to discover your reason for existence on earth.
It is not enough to discover your passion. Discovery must be backed up by action to function. You must take the necessary actions that will put you passion into motion. Passion without action is as good as dead.
Action will be delayed or hindered if you do not believe in yourself. You’ve got to believe in what you have, who you are and what you can offer. This is only when actions can be taken. Some even manage to act on their passion without this strong believe in themselves. The end result is that they achieved very little and are soon discouraged. Actions, when taken with self-confidence will yield a better result.
Fear is the main killer of self-confidence in man. This brings limitations and incapacitates a man. Many who have died with their great dreams not achieved is because they failed to deal with their fears. Although they have great passion for success but they lack self-confidence. They do not believe in their personal ability. They failed to trust themselves and the quality of what they carry. Fear of what people will say, fear of the fact that people will laugh at them if they failed will hinder them from taking the desired steps towards success.
Self-confidence is not sold in the market. It cannot be found in any grocery store. It is in you. It is your duty to build your self-confidence. This cannot be achieved by remaining locked up in your shell. The best way to build your confidence is to step out of your comfort zone and get at doing what you fear to do. The very first time you stab your fear by taking that action that really scares you, that day onward, you begin the journey to achieving great success in life.
Do not be afraid of making mistakes. And if you make a mistake in any of your attempts, forgive yourself, learn from that mistake and forge ahead. This is the way to debunk every lie about self-confidence. Always say to yourself that you can do it. Self-reassurance helps to build self-confidence.
Great achievers today are those who believed in themselves and those who never grudge their mistakes but rather learn to forgive themselves and learn from their mistakes. Take a clue from great men and women in our contemporary days; they are never afraid of taking any risk. They give up every fear to passionately pursue their goals. They realize that fear of whatever may happen can stifle out their confidence. And once you lose confidence in yourself, there is a limit to what you can achieve.
It is a natural thing to fidget at your first attempt. The faces of people and the uncertainty of their reaction can make you frightened at first. The magic lies in continuity. The more you repeat the actions for success, the more you get used to it. Soon, you overcome your greatest fears and enjoy every bit of your actions taken towards the achievement of your goals in life.
Over-confidence on the other hand can be very deadly. This is visible in one that is too sure of himself and his ability. He believes he can never make a mistake. He trusts himself to a fault and never believes that he needs other people’s contribution or assistance for success. Such people soon meet their Waterloo. They fail woefully. Realization becomes too late for them.
Avoid becoming an extremist in terms of confidence. Lack of confidence will limit your success while over confidence can lead to outright failure. Be balanced. Build a normal self-trust. Watch and fight against the great self-confidence killer, which is fear. When you passionately do this, success is sure.